Do you even know where to start so that you can calm your Christmas chaos? Are you are juggling time or money or just feeling that it’s always you that has to do everything! Maybe you are balancing work with home and all those extra activities that happen at this time of year with the kids too? Is it all feeling a little frazzled and chaotic? Is the pressure of that never ending to-do list getting you down? Wouldn’t it be great to feel calm at Christmas?
There is so much expectation and busyness these days, especially around Christmas that it’s easy to feel that life is a bit chaotic leaving us overwhelmed, stressed or under pressure.
Being stressed or anxious doesn’t necessarily mean we are looking all crazy and frazzled and doing lots mad of hand waving. However the chaos and busyness and pressure can stop us thinking straight which doesn’t help us to feel calm and Christmassy at all!
So, what can you do? And do you really need more things to add to that to-do list? All my work is focused on having things that fit in with our daily lives, so the aim really is for calm Christmas period for you.
So here’s my top 5 ways to calm your Christmas chaos.
When we are anxious our heart is beating faster or our breathing is more shallow and high up in our chest. You can do something about that.
- Put your hands on your belly so that fingers are just touching.
- Take some deep breaths until you can feel that breath all the way down into your belly.
- Continue and notice how the tips of your fingers move apart with each breath.
- You can even add a few Ho Ho Ho’s in there because even that needs that deep breath to be expelled in a long and slower way!
Belly breathing releases calming chemicals and you can do this anywhere.
Take 5 minutes each day to visualize how you want your day to look like. Even if you only get to do this in the shower or on the loo (seriously)!
Create an image of how you want your day to be but also how you want to be. It can still be busy and productive even when you are calm. So, in your visualization be sure to create how you want to look and feel as well as your body language. Standing tall and proud can create a change in the chemicals in our body to support that feeling. Maybe you’d rather be calm and relaxed, or organised and level-headed. If so, imagine how that would feel for you and how you might look, smiling, face relaxed, shoulder down, muscles relaxed, what does your voice sound like? Even if you are trying to be superwoman, adopt the superwoman pose; stand firm with hands on hips, head high and notice how it changes the way you feel!
Write down your jobs to do. Firstly, it gets them out of your head and stops those endless thoughts just whizzing round.
- Really stop for a minute and take a look at those jobs. Prioritize them.
- Give them a score of 1-10, 10 most important and 1 least important.
- If you are feeling pressure and stuck for time what could you do without?
- What could you ask someone else to do?
- What jobs could be done with a little less perfection (and what does perfection look like anyway?).
- What jobs are on that list with a low number that no-one will notice if you do or not?
Really! (This is something I harp on at people about quite frequently). How many times are you asked “can you just ….?”.
You need to look after yourself and be realistic about what you can actually achieve – for yourself and others. Saying NO is absolutely not being mean or selfish or unhelpful or whatever that little guilt voice is your head says. It is about create respect and setting boundaries. Practice saying NO out loud, and when you do say NO, notice the response it gets. It is never as bad as you think it will be!
Time for yourself.
You are spending so much time and effort in making sure everyone else is spoiled, treated, loved and looked after. Make sure you don’t forget yourself. Whether that is a walk with the dog, a bubble bath or to the gym or exercise class it doesn’t really matter. Find something for you and treat, spoil or love yourself as much as you do the other people in your life.
So, you see, these tips are about actions as well as mindset. They really are easy to fit into your everyday life so that you can feel calm at Christmas – and at lots of other times too. Which ones would you find would work for you?
I’d love to hear how you get on!
Hi, I’m Emma, Hypnotherapist in York with a particular interest in helping you with anxiety, stress, fears and phobias so that you can take back control of your thoughts and feelings. That way you can quickly and easily feel more able to cope with your busy life! There are no magic wands or quick fixes instead I give you personalised tools that work for you and fit with your lifestyle.
So, are you ready to let go of that old anxiety, fear or phobia? Do you want to live a happier, stress free life? Book your complimentary consultation here and find out how you can reach your goals and really enjoy life!
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