Are We Born Knowing Fear?

Nov 1, 2015 | Hypnosis, Fear, Phobia


Did you know that we are not born knowing about fear?  We learn fear from experiences and circumstances in our lives and it becomes an automatic response or reaction whenever we encounter those situations fearful again in our lives.  

Sometimes a scary situation delivered safely can be “fun” – like at Halloween and that’s because and even if it makes us jump or shocks us we know it’s safe and feel no threat from the situation. A small amount of fear can raise adrenaline and give people that “buzz” feeling. Some people like that. 


Your Internal Fire Alarm

If you have experienced those fearful feelings and did not liked how they feel then your brain and body remember them.  Next time you experience the thought or feeling your brain makes the same association as a way to warn you of potential danger.  It’s like your internal fire alarm going off and creates a set of automatic responses which is known as fight, flight, freeze response.

The reality is that these things might not be dangerous.  The annoying thing is that your logic part of your brain, at this point in time, is not connected. So you can be telling yourself “it’s ok, it’s only …” (whatever your fear is) but it doesn’t make any difference. Why?  Because your brain is on autopilot now thinking it’s keeping you safe!  Reality is it’s causing more problems!! 

The difference between fear and phobia is when a fear is more intense and extreme it is termed a phobia. A phobia creates heightened anxiety as well as the fear and is often persistent and all-consuming.

What Can You Do About Your Fear?

Whether you have a fear or phobia we can work together to take away the emotions associated with that circumstance that currently bothers you.  

If there is a particular event that keeps popping vividly into your mind then we can work to reduce and change the way you remember that event so that it no longer bothers you. 

I don’t work with the exposure therapy – you will have enough memories in your own head without me needing to bring items into the therapy room! I will help you to look at those unpleasant situations in a supported way so that we can find a way for you to let go of those old outdated learnings.


You will know when you feel better about your fear and it way change the way you think about situations and circumstances. 

All this can be achieved in around 3-6 sessions. As each person is different I always make a personalised plan to help you. Some people will need more sessions than others. 

Don’t let your fear get in the way of your enjoying yourself.

Hi, I’m Emma, Hypnotherapist in York with a particular interest in helping you with anxiety, stress, fears and phobias so that you can take back control of your thoughts and feelings.  That way you can quickly and easily feel more able to cope with your busy life! There are no magic wands or quick fixes instead I give you personalised tools that work for you and fit with your lifestyle.

So, are you ready to let go of that old anxiety, fear or phobia? Do you want to live a happier, stress free life? Book your complimentary consultation here and find out how you can reach your goals and really enjoy life!

Find out more at and read about testimonials from people I have worked with on phobias and fears. 

This post discusses: fight, fight flight, flight, freeze, Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, mind, Relaxation, therapy
Emma Langton

Emma Langton

Executive Leadership Coach

Emma hosts the Lessons for Leaders podcast. Each week she brings you lessons, learnings, tips and advice to enable you to lead with ease in business, without stress, doubt and overwhelm so that I help you to increase your performance, be resilient and thrive in life. Emma has been providing coaching, training and therapeutic support for executives since setting up her business in 2011. Prior to that she spent over 20 years with people at the top of national and multi-national training and communication businesses.


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