BBP22 Ditching New Year Resolutions

BBP22 Ditching New Year Resolutions

I’m talking about why I don’t make resolutions.  As a person who is all about self-improvement, it might sound a bit strange to hear me saying that.  Check out the last episode on setting goals! In 2019 January 17th is Ditch New Year Resolutions Day!

I’m talking about why I don’t make resolutions.  As a person who is all about self-improvement, it might sound a bit strange to hear me saying that.  Check out the last episode on setting goals!

In 2019 January 17th is Ditch New Year Resolutions Day!


Often we think about what we WANT to do, based on what we feel we SHOULD do.  It’s what everyone else does so maybe we should too?  Well, that really depends on your set of expectations.  If you are doing something because you feel you should then it’s going to forced, it’s not going to be comfortable.  It might be achievable but it’s probably going to be quite difficult.  If you think about what you feel you should and then repeat that sentence with the word could and see how it sounds.  Do you still really want to do it?  Maybe you will, maybe you won’t.  It will change your perspective and change your expectation of whatever you previously thought you should do!


January (in the UK anyway) is traditionally a time for hibernation, keeping warm and getting through the cold, dark days.  We’ve now gone past the shortest day and just because days are getting slightly longer it doesn’t mean that we need to go out there and be some bright bouncing invigorated way.

It’s not really quite the right time for making big changes, it’s not a natural time of growth in nature and so it’s not a natural time for growth in ourselves either.  There are plenty of other times in the year – when there are less expectations and less pressure – for you to set yourself some goals, make changes, build dreams, set resolutions.  They don’t just have to be done in January.


If we want to be consistently growing, changing, adapting then we need to be doing this little and often.  So instead of beating yourself up to “Stop this”, “Be that”, “Do More of the other” – just because it’s a New Year Resolution, try making small adjustments to your life, your plans, your goals and you’ll soon begin to notice just how achievable they are.  Whatever it is that you are setting yourself as that resolution can be a small and consistent thing that becomes second nature.

Success Rate

Apparently about a third of New Year Resolutions don’t make it to the end of January!  Only about 10% of resolutions last the distance.  So I’m not saying that you don’t make any New Year Resolutions, just think about your timing.  Maybe there are better times for you do make changes – at the new tax year, new school year, at your new year of each birthday?  Do what you want and need to do, when you feel you are ready and that way your changes and improvements are quite likely to be more consistent and you can then bask in the success!

So if I want to make goals, changes or set targets I don’t wait until January to do it.  I make changes whenever I need to.  My life, my work, my business is constantly in review.  Not in a big way, but gently noticing.  I regularly take time to look back every now then, each month, each quarter (and each half term with my daughter) and I celebrate the success and continue along or I make adjustments to ensure my goals and targets meet the needs.

If you’re ready to make simple changes with big results and want to talk about how I can help you do that, BOOK A CALL.  Lets get clear clear on whats causing your problem and start your journey to success – in the BEST way for you!

This post discusses:
Emma Langton

Emma Langton

Executive Leadership Coach

Emma hosts the Lessons for Leaders podcast. Each week she brings you lessons, learnings, tips and advice to enable you to lead with ease in business, without stress, doubt and overwhelm so that I help you to increase your performance, be resilient and thrive in life. Emma has been providing coaching, training and therapeutic support for executives since setting up her business in 2011. Prior to that she spent over 20 years with people at the top of national and multi-national training and communication businesses.


Submit a Comment

Your email address will not be published.

This site is protected by reCAPTCHA and the Google Privacy Policy and Terms of Service apply.

Related Posts

BBP52 Do What You Can’t

BBP52 Do What You Can’t This week I talk to Gemma Stow.  She loves to help empower women to step into the spotlight.  Gemma works with lots of Introverts from corporate and entrepreneur worlds and helps them to “find their fierce” and...

BBP51 Getting Confident with Your Success

BBP51 Getting Confident with Your Success A confidence and leadership coach with a background in leadership and management and helps people with performance and growth.  Nicoletta joined me from Italy to talk to me.  I asked Nicoletta to join me to share...

BBP50 What Drives You to Change?

BBP50 What Drives You to Change? Listen into the conversation with Susie where we talk about what drives you to make changes in life and what helps her know she has balance in her life. I met Susie at an event and we seemed to connect and have...

Feeling Overwhelmed?

That feeling of overwhelm can become a negative spiral once it starts.

  • You start to feel out of control
  • There’s too much to do
  • Not enough time to do everything
  • Worry or panic sets in
  • You can’t think clearly and everything seems so difficult
  • Before long, you’re wondering if you can cope at all

This free guide has simple steps to breaking that overwhelm cycle. You can use each step individually or all together. There are 7 simple and straightforward steps to get you out of overwhelm, feeling calm, clear headed and in control.