Good resilience is your ability to kind of cope and to rise to those challenges.
Resilience relies on different skills and resources. Some might be about your physical health, mental health or relationships, thinking skills.
So, if you’re a manager or leader, or you’re setting an example somewhere, then that’s important to manage your resilience.
When we recognise and understand our own emotions, we can do the same with others. That also means we can impact ourselves and others positively and negatively.
It’s not good floating around like a swan and pretending everything is fine. If you spend time trying to look calm and glide gracefully whilst feeling like you are paddling madly underneath. Outwardly you are managing to look composed, keep up with that endless pressure but inside you’re absolutely shattered, overwhelmed and feeling a bit ill or like you’re not coping.
Recognise the Feelings
6.40m Firstly, you need to recognise your feelings and allow yourself to feel them (instead of ignoring them or distracting yourself). If things are rough you might need to set aside time to do this.
7.25m Listen in when I talk about how I allowed myself to really feel the big feelings.
8.30m You might need to have a good cry! I explain about the healing aspects of crying and why it’s good for you.
10.0m Another good way to release and let go is to visualise letting go of the feelings. Imagine you are gathering up all the thoughts and feelings related to the negativity and in your mind picture some way of getting rid of them. I explain some options on the podcast.
12.30m Look at what you can do to revitalise yourself. It might be spending time with your partner, your kids, your friends, making connections with other people. We need conversations and interactions we need to laugh. We need to find joy somewhere, even if it feels like it’s pretty tricky to do. Think about what will boost your feel good chemicals to fill up that emotional bucket.
Seriously, look at what you can leave for a while. Re-prioritise and give yourself some time and space. It doesn’t have to be for ever!
15.0m I run a bath, some people do Netflix, some people run, exercise. They all create a space in your mind and body. This allows the negative stuff to drain away, out of your bucket. Leaving space for good stuff.
Prioritise the important needs. Instead of staying up late trying to get everything done. Get your sleep. We all find it hard to function when we are tired. Never sacrifice your sleep.
When you’re overloaded or feeling pressure the last thing you need is everyone else’s stuff! Filter it out. Shut down social media. Remember too that people only talk about really good or really bad things. They’re not going to show or talk about the fact that they are not coping, so filter information and keep reality in mind. Don’t let people drain you with their woes.
Also filter things that annoy or drain you. I share a good example of mine in the podcast.
Think about the kind of good stuff that is going to fill your emotional bucket of resilience with good stuff.
Next week, I’m going to talking about whole list of things, so remember to come back to get more ideas in case you need them.
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