Stress | Emma Langton https://emmalangton.com Executive Leadership Coaching Fri, 16 May 2025 14:20:48 +0000 en-GB hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 https://emmalangton.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/Emma-Langton-LogoFavIcon.svg Stress | Emma Langton https://emmalangton.com 32 32 Is Your Emotional Bucket Overflowing? How Can Coaching and Hypnotherapy Help? https://emmalangton.com/emotional-bucket-coaching-and-hypnotherapy-help/ Thu, 10 Apr 2025 14:47:11 +0000 https://emmalangton.com/?p=6489

You might have heard the term emotional bucket floating around (excuse the pun), but what does it actually mean? And more importantly, how do you know if yours is overflowing?

Let’s break it down, because understanding your emotional bucket is more crucial than ever in 2025.

What is an Emotional Bucket?

Your emotional bucket is a simple but powerful way of visualising how we store feelings — especially the tricky, tough, or heavy ones.

We’re talking about everyday stress, anxiety, self-doubt, feelings of not being good enough, and even the more hidden emotions like shame or embarrassment. Add to that the pressure of rising living costs, job insecurity, digital overwhelm from 24/7 connectivity, and social comparison from endless social media scrolling… well, it’s no surprise that many people’s buckets are dangerously close to overflowing.

When these feelings build up (whether slowly over time or quickly after a tough week), they sit quietly in our emotional bucket. The problem? If we don’t learn how to release or manage them, the bucket eventually spills over. That’s when we start to feel like we’re at breaking point.

How Can You Tell If Your Emotional Bucket is Overflowing?

There are some pretty clear signs, if you know what to look for. You might notice:

  • Feeling constantly overwhelmed or on edge
  • Bursting into tears or snapping in frustration over small things
  • Struggling to concentrate or make decisions
  • Feeling anxious, irritable, or trapped in negative thinking loops
  • Difficulty sleeping, or waking up already feeling exhausted
  • An ongoing sense of “I just can’t cope anymore”

Sound familiar?

As a coach and hypnotherapist, I work with people every day who feel like this. The good news is, we can do something about it.

If you’re looking for help to manage the overflow of emotions then coaching and hypnotherapy can be really helpful to give tools to empty your bucket or rebalance your emotions. Get in touch here to book a call to discuss more.

What About an Empty Bucket?

Interestingly, a completely empty emotional bucket isn’t healthy either. If your bucket feels empty, you might experience:

  • Emotional numbness
  • Feeling fed up, bored, or detached from life
  • Constant tiredness, even when you’re resting
  • Low mood or signs of depression
  • Struggling to find motivation or enjoyment in things you once loved

We’re aiming for balance — not an overflowing bucket, and not an empty one either.

How Coaching and Hypnotherapy Can Help Rebalance?

In 2025, many of us are juggling more demands than ever, and while self-help tools are brilliant, sometimes you need deeper support. That’s where coaching and hypnotherapy come in.

As a coach, I help you identify what’s filling your bucket in the first place. We work together to build resilience, set healthier boundaries, and create coping strategies tailored to your life. It’s not about adding more to your to-do list — it’s about clearing space for what truly matters.

Hypnotherapy goes a layer deeper. It helps you access your subconscious mind, where many of these emotional triggers and patterns live. Through hypnotherapy, we can gently release the emotional build-up, reduce anxiety, and develop a more positive, calm mindset. Many clients describe it as finally turning off the relentless mental noise.

Together, coaching and hypnotherapy create a powerful toolkit for maintaining emotional balance.

Everyday Tools to Lighten Your Emotional Load

Alongside professional support, there are plenty of small, daily actions that can help ease the strain and either empty your overflowing bucket or fill an empty one.

Here are some tried-and-tested favourites from my coaching clients (and from my own experience too!):

  • Spend quality time with people who uplift you
  • Limit doom-scrolling on social media (a big one for 2025!)
  • Get outside — nature has an incredible way of grounding us
  • Move your body in any way you enjoy — dancing, walking, yoga
  • Nourish your body with healthy, satisfying food
  • Try mindfulness or breathing exercises to calm your nervous system
  • Get creative: painting, baking, gardening, or even doodling
  • Take a tech break — let your brain recharge
  • Listen to music that boosts your mood
  • Explore alternative therapies like massage, reflexology, or aromatherapy
  • Visualisation exercises — imagine your emotional weight floating away in a balloon or drifting out to sea (yes, this really works!)

Most importantly: give yourself permission to pause.

Start Balancing Your Bucket Today

This term isn’t just a nice metaphor — it’s a real way to understand your mental and emotional health. If yours feels unmanageable right now, please know that you’re not alone.

Through coaching and hypnotherapy, we can work together to create space, release what’s weighing you down, and build the emotional resilience you need to thrive in 2025 and beyond.

If this resonates with you, please do go to my contact page and drop me an email or book a call to discuss how coaching and hypnotherapy can benefit you to keep your emotions balanced so that you have fantastic yet simple ways to control your emotions.

Emma Langton has over 13 years experience in supporting leaders to enhance engagement, performance and wellbeing. Her coaching, training and speaking is valued by individuals and organisations across the UK for getting results quickly with her straight talking Yorkshire style.

Often referred to by her clients as the boundary queen and the resilience goddess, she shares her passion for progress with practical tips and advice so that her clients improve leadership skills, reduce stress and pressure and elevate wellbeing. She regularly provides insights for BBC, Forbes, Metro and also has a podcast called Lessons for Leaders with 100 episodes.

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Why it’s Worth Investing in Stress Awareness https://emmalangton.com/why-its-worth-investing-in-stress-awareness/ Fri, 02 Feb 2024 12:58:00 +0000 https://emmalangton.com/?p=6098 Why it’s Worth Investing in Stress Awareness in 2024

April is Stress Awareness Month, and the 2024 focus is to talk about stress and it’s effect on people. Doing this raises awareness, helps people to ensure they don’t feel alone and enables sharing of things that are helpful.

I often hear from HR and People Managers in organisations who tell me that their people say they’re stressed or struggling with workload, overwhelm and wellbeing …. BUT ‘don’t have time’ to do anything about it.

This is just one of the reason why I’m sharing information that can help you make a decision on whether it’s worth investing in stress awareness.

The last few years has changed how we connect and communicate, and although it’s also taught us resilience and shined a spotlight on our ability to adapt, it’s also impacted our emotional, psychological and social wellbeing, so talking about how we feel is important.

Employers have a ‘duty of care’ to ensure that employees are not subjected to excessive stress in the workplace, this also means arming employees and leaders with the tools they need to manage stress effectively.

As well as costing businesses money through work-related stress and mental illness absences (£26 billion per annum in fact), stress thought to be responsible for almost half of working days lost in Britain due to health issues. 

Stress Awareness Workshops

To find out more about my Stress Awareness Workshops get in touch now, spaces are filling up fast.

You have the option of completely tailored workshops that focus on the area your business needs to make the most effective impact. That might be a workshop for managers ensure there is a clear understand of what can cause stress, spot the signs early, implement tools and tips to prevent reaching crisis point.

It might be a session for all people with top tips, quick wins and easy ‘at your desk’ stress reducing activities.

Lessons for Leaders Podcast Revisited

On a revisit, but just as relevant, on the podcast I’m talking about Why it’s Worth Investing in Stress Awareness.

I cover:

What is Causing Stress in the Workplace?

How will Stress Awareness Help Your Organisation?

How Does Stress Impact Productivity?

Is it Worth Investing in Stress Awareness?

Ways I can support you or help for you to do it yourself.

Why it’s Worth Investing in Stress Awareness

This week on the podcast I’m talking about Why it’s Worth Investing in Stress Awareness. I wonder if you’ve ever had a time when you’ve ever felt stressed and known what would help … but not bothered to do it????

Why it’s Worth Investing in Stress Awareness

Stress is a word that we have heard so many times over the last few years. In fact, if you asked many people I am sure that ‘stressful’ would sum up their experience of recent years with pressure on hybrid working, financial worries and work pressure.

Listen for more details, ideas, information and discussion on this topic.

Ask me about my Stress Awareness Workshops or grab my DIY pack.

This is a pack full of factual information, instructions and resources so that you can implement your own Stress Awareness and activities with your workplace and colleagues without having to think up ideas.  There are also posters and images to share in your own newsletters along with a quiz and some conversation topics.

I hope this is helpful for you. Please do share any feedback or any questions on this, drop me an email at emma@emmalangton.com

For further information on 1:1, group coaching or training get in touch.

Join my corporate leadership and wellbeing newsletter HERE

If you want to be increasing your performance so that you’re more resilient, less stressed in these current times, so that you can focus easily, use tools and techniques to deal with all the current and unknown challenges then make sure that you send me an email or use the online diary and arrange a time for a chat.

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Lessons for Leaders 99: How to Persuade Leaders to Invest in Wellbeing https://emmalangton.com/lessons-for-leaders-99-how-to-persuade-leaders-to-invest-in-wellbeing/ Fri, 02 Dec 2022 14:59:36 +0000 https://emmalangton.com/?p=6111 How to Persuade Leaders to Invest in Wellbeing

This week I’m sharing top tips and conversations I have frequently with people in organisations to help them persuade leaders to invest in wellbeing.

We’re covering:

  • What to do to persuade your leaders
  • The 3 R’s that I like to go to with organisations I work with
  • Why we need to look at revenue in different ways… I dive into specifics here to give you a head start
  • How to highlight the risks to an organisation
  • Why it’s important to include reputation in this persuasive detail too

How to Persuade Leaders to Invest in Wellbeing

This week I’m sharing top tips and conversations that I have frequently with people in organisations to help them know how to persuade leaders to invest in wellbeing. We’re covering: What to do to persuade your leaders The 3 R’s that I like to go with organisations I work with.

How to Persuade Leaders to Invest in Wellbeing

It’s easy to say wellbeing can help to reverse employee burnout and reduce stress, turnover and absenteeism.

Often dismissed or seen as nice to do, is it really essential?  Is it something worthy of budget or resources?

Promoting an environment where it’s ok to talk about mental health and encouraging good wellbeing is simply the right thing to do. Unfortunately, some of your senior colleagues won’t agree or will be more focused on investing in business projects that they deem to have a clearer ROI. The good news is that, whilst not everyone will see wellbeing plans and training as a business critical issue right now, there are strong reasons that it MUST form part of your core business strategy.

You just need to find what IS the focus of your senior people so we can determine how to convince, persuade, or justify the time and expense on wellbeing.

Company executives want to know that any new programme, including wellbeing, is going to support the bottom line of the business and its long-term growth.

I share in more detail how you can do that.  So have a listen.

If you’re looking for support for your wellbeing plan, coaching for your leaders or training programmes that not only help your leaders, managers and employees enhance their wellbeing and performance, but also gives you the tools and strategies to ensure senior buy in from the outset – get in touch.

Any questions on this, drop me an email at emma@emmalangton.com

For further information on 1:1, group coaching or training get in touch.

Join my corporate leadership and wellbeing newsletter HERE

If you want to be increasing your performance so that you’re more resilient, less stressed in these current times, so that you can focus easily, use tools and techniques to deal with all the current and unknown challenges then make sure that you send me an email or use the online diary and arrange a time for a chat.

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Lessons for Leaders 92: Easy Ways to Say No https://emmalangton.com/lessons-for-leaders-92-easy-ways-to-say-no/ Fri, 02 Dec 2022 12:09:34 +0000 https://emmalangton.com/?p=6076 Easy Ways to Say No

Do you find it difficult to say no to people? Perhaps it means you end up being busy, stressed, or over-committed?  Often when we struggle to say no to people it can leave us feeling used, put upon, or juggling too many things. Are you the one who ends up working late because you’ve said yes to others, yet you’re the one with more to do?

Then this episode – Easy Ways to Say No – is for you.

I talk about:

  • How to say no and establish healthy boundaries
  • How to handle the fear, stress, worry and guilt
  • The surprising reason that saying no is good for you
  • Key phrases that you can begin to use to get you started
  • Why it’s not always about you
  • Suggestions to think about helping you with easy ways to say no

Easy Ways to Say No

Do you find it difficult to say no to people?  Perhaps it means you end up being busy, stressed, over-committed?  Often when we struggle to say no to people it can leave us feeling used, put up-on, juggling too many things.  Are you the one who ends up working late because you’ve said yes to others, yet you’re the one with more to do?

Easy Ways to Say No

It’s important to be able to say no so you feel empowered while still maintaining your relationships with others. Saying no helps you establish healthy boundaries and enables others to have clarity about what they can expect from you.

When you struggle to say no, look at what’s going on when you feel like this? What feeling or emotion comes up for you when people ask you do something? Perhaps there are past experiences and situations that mean you’ve learned it’s easier to say yes than no.

For many it’s a worry or fear about what others will think. 

Consider the other situation – you say yes so many times that you end up worn out. Then there’s really no chance of you saying yes to anything if you’ve made yourself poorly!  Focus on the benefits of saying no.

Apparently the Mayo Clinic has done research that concludes that saying no can help to reduce your stress levels and increase your happiness.   

Any questions on this, drop me an email at emma@emmalangton.com

For further information on 1:1, group coaching or training get in touch.

Join my corporate leadership and wellbeing newsletter HERE

If you want to be increasing your performance so that you’re more resilient, less stressed in these current times, so that you can focus easily, use tools and techniques to deal with all the current and unknown challenges then make sure that you send me an email or use the online diary and arrange a time for a chat.

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Lessons for Leaders 84: Top 5 Episodes of 2021 https://emmalangton.com/lessons-for-leaders-84-top-5-episodes-of-2021/ Fri, 25 Nov 2022 12:14:52 +0000 https://emmalangton.com/?p=6039 Top 5 Episodes of 2021

I’m sharing a recap of the top 5 episodes for 2021.  These are the podcast episodes that have had the highest listens throughout the year and I though it useful to recap them for you.  People are often asking me which I should listen to first, so this will be a helpful way to dive in to the most popular ones and get you started, or enable you to recap any that you missed.

Even if you heard them before, it’s often useful to get a reminder of key messages …. It’s so easy to forget these things. 

The most listened to are:

LFL18   Boundaries for Leaders

Good leadership boundaries enhance workforce behaviour, stops workforce behaviour from being pulled down taking away from its values, mission, purpose, and results.

Listen to why boundaries are my favourite subject and why I think they are so essential in business, organisation and life.

Boundaries for Leaders

Great boundaries set the culture and expectation of an organisation so that they set the standard of performance within a workplace.  This is then easily disseminated down the workforce so that they too have good boundaries in their own work ethics and both personal and professional values.

LFL21   Preventing Leadership Fatigue and Burn Out

Although this was published back in June, it’s still relevant now and I expect it will be right through 2022.  I’ve been hearing of lots of people experiencing burn out, extreme fatigue and people struggling.  So this is going to be so helpful.

Burnout characterised by “emotional exhaustion” and usually attributed to the professional role you have, therefore, maintaining work life balance is vital to prevent burnout.

The difficulty though is that often fatigue and burn out happen because leader DO love their jobs, or feel a sense of responsibility or struggle to delegate – in fact there can be a host of differing factors.  Because everyone is different. 

Preventing Leadership Fatigue and Burn Out

Leaders often thrive with a challenge, however when the challenge is a prolonged one, such as this period of the Covid-19 crisis, leaders need to ensure that they are able to sustain the test of time. Prioritising mental wellbeing is just as essential for leaders in a time of crisis as it is for your employees.

LFL15 Resilient Leadership: My Six Pillars of Resilience

This episode gives you an insight into my resilience workshops and training.  In January one organisation has booked me to deliver 8 resilience workshops for their organisation that incorporates 5 x one hour sessions for all staff and 3 x 2 hour sessions for managers.  If you want an insight, go over to this episode and here me talking about 

  • what resilience is
  • how resilience impacts you in leadership and your employees
  • what are my six pillars of resilience

Leaders are expected to be able to run and lead in their business and to be able to do it well.  Accenture concluded that 

“Resilience may be the new criterion for professional advancement”

LFL15 Resilient Leadership: My Six Pillars of Resilience

00  I’m talking about  what resilience is how resilience impacts you in leadership and your employees what are my six pillars of resilience Leaders are expected to be able to run and lead in their business and to be able to do it well.  Accenture concluded that  “Resilience may be the new criterion for professional advancement” With business and economic challenge the way a leader handles pressure is likely to have a huge impact on performance and success of an organisation.  So resilience is critical to survive the challenges ahead, during and after lockdown.

LFL38 7 Steps to a Winning Wellbeing Plan

This is a process I go through with organisations when we’re looking at creating their wellbeing plans.  January is a great time to put this in place … but it can happen at any time of the year.   If you’re not on my newsletter, then get signed up because the January edition will be giving away more info about these 7 steps too.

To listen to the episode, you’ll hear I’m talking about the 7 steps that you can take to create winning wellbeing plans in your organisation and sharing exactly what would be good things so that there are not just knee jerk reactions and plugging gaps.

7 Steps to a Winning Wellbeing Plan

7 Steps to a Winning Wellbeing Plan This week I’m talking about the 7 steps that you can take to create winning wellbeing plans in your organisation and sharing exactly what would be good things so that there are not just knee jerk reactions and plugging gaps.

LFL13 Managing Stress During the Lockdown

This episode is not just relevant for back when we were in lockdown.  It shares what common stress responses look like, so that you can spot the signs.  I share what we need to do with the stress that ensures we don’t stay with that stress response for too long.  We must give ourselves time to accept, react and adjust. Then we create a new normal.

LFL13 Managing Stress During the Lockdown

The irony that we are in lockdown during April is not lost on me. April is Stress Awareness Month   The Mental Health Foundation discovered that in 2019, 74% of adults felt so stressed that they were overwhelmed and unable to cope (and that was before the current challenges that we’re facing!)

Please do make sure you hit ‘subscribe’ so that don’t miss an episode.  

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If you want to be increasing your performance so that you’re more resilient in these current times, so that you can focus easily, use tools and techniques to deal with all the current and unknown challenges then make sure that you either drop me an email to emma@emmalangton.com

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Lessons for Leaders 83: Six Ways to Set Christmas Boundaries https://emmalangton.com/lessons-for-leaders-83-six-ways-to-set-christmas-boundaries/ Fri, 25 Nov 2022 12:08:43 +0000 https://emmalangton.com/?p=6033 Six Ways to Set Christmas Boundaries

Not all of us get oodles of holiday time over Christmas.  After the couple of years we’ve had it’s important to set boundaries and ensure that you get time for you AND time to prioritise and enjoy Christmas in a way that works for you.

Listen in for my six ways to set Christmas boundaries.

Listen in for my story about how I let go of perfect and the different perspectives I learnt from that experience.

And listen right to the very end for my Christmas message to you too.

Six Ways to Set Christmas Boundaries

Not all of us get oodles of holiday time over Christmas.  After the couple of years we’ve had it’s important to set boundaries and ensure that you get time for you and time to prioritise and enjoy Christmas in a way that works for you.

Six Ways to Set Christmas Boundaries

Regardless of how many days off you have, the Christmas season is a time to switch off, properly. It’s the middle of winter, energy is low, and the Christmas break is the closest our fast-paced culture comes to hibernation.

We all need time to switch off and refuel.  Every learning and growth cycle includes a period of quiet, a period for rest and recuperation. It allows us to come back stronger, renewed, ready to go again.

So if you want 2022 to be your most effective, powerful, satisfying year yet, it starts now by setting Christmas boundaries.

Here’s are my six ways to set Christmas boundaries:

  1. Prioritise
  2. Limit Work Time
  3. Make Time for Fun
  4. Have an Escape Plan
  5. Let Go of Perfect
  6. Be Present

If you enjoyed this episode, please do leave a review and share on social media so that more people can enjoy the tips and advice.

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If you want to be increasing your performance so that you’re more resilient, less stressed in these current times, so that you can focus easily, use tools and techniques to deal with all the current and unknown challenges then make sure that you send me an email or use the online diary and arrange a time for a chat.

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Lessons for Leaders 76: Top Tips to Overcome Work-Related Stress https://emmalangton.com/lessons-for-leaders-76-top-tips-to-overcome-work-related-stress/ Tue, 18 Oct 2022 11:17:07 +0000 https://emmalangton.com/?p=5985 For November Stress Awareness Week, I’m sharing simple and easy top tips to overcome work-related stress.  I’m sharing:

  • Why you need to put a start and end to your day
  • The reason you need to prioritise
  • Why you should not take breathing for granted
  • The important of making sure you get moving
  • The reasons you need to be speaking to people

Whatever your job role, stress is something many of us contend with. I think we can all agree that the last 18 months have brought new stresses to our lives, that certainly weren’t in our job description. Whether you’re working from home, working hybrid or fully back into the office, this episode will be relevant to you.

Top Tips to Overcome Work-Related Stress

For November stress awareness week I’m sharing simple and easy top tips to overcome work related stress.  I’m sharing: Why you need to put a start and end to your day The reason you need to prioritise Why you should not take breathing for granted The important of making sure you get moving The reasons you need to be speaking to people Whatever your job role, stress is something many of us contend with.

With Stress Awareness Week throughout November, organisations are using this as a focus for a boost to wellbeing workshops to support their people, reduce stress, improve performance and raise awareness.

The good news is that you don’t have to have a stressed-out workplace, so helping yourself, or encouraging implementation of these tips will enhance the support you give your people, so they can cope with these challenging times.

Listen in to this episode for top tips on easy ways to overcome work related stress.

Please do make sure you hit ‘subscribe’ so that don’t miss an episode.  

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If you want to be increasing your performance so that you’re more resilient in these current times, so that you can focus easily, use tools and techniques to deal with all the current and unknown challenges then make sure that you either drop me an email to emma@emmalangton.com or head over to my website at https://emmalangton.com.

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Coping with the Swan Effect https://emmalangton.com/coping-with-the-swan-effect/ https://emmalangton.com/coping-with-the-swan-effect/#comments Mon, 14 Feb 2022 12:12:56 +0000 http://www.emmalangton.co.uk/?p=832 swan-effect-9781696Do you do the Swan Effect?  Do you spend time trying to look calm and glide gracefully whilst feeling like you are paddling madly underneath?  Outwardly you are managing to look composed, keep up with that endless to-do list but inside you’re absolutely shattered, overwhelmed and feeling like you’re not coping.

This ‘swan effect’ – it’s common; appearing calm and together on the surface, yet not quite showing all that’s going on.  Deep down, there’s feelings of anxiety, not coping, guilt or failure. Maybe your stomach is churning or the pressure is building and you feel like there’s a weight on your shoulders or something heavy on your chest. Perhaps you’re just tired, beyond tired and short tempered? I know. In fact, that’s been me – frequently.

With two adopted children who have extensive trauma and special needs, life at home can stressful and demanding. Sometimes it can feel like its demanding all the time actually, especially when a day or week seems to be fully of phone calls from schools, strops and meltdowns each morning and night, more time and more care is needed for all those things which should be simple and straightforward. I know.

So what can you do to get back to feeling like you are coping?

6 Ways to Change the Swan Effect

Prioritise

What’s important?  It might be that you really need that sleep, instead of using the swan effect and secretly staying up late trying to get everything done. Get your sleep. We all find it hard to function when we are tired. Never sacrifice your sleep, always prioritise it. Maybe it’s something else you really need, you personally. Put that to the top of your list.

Revitalise

Spend time with your partner or kids or friends. We are social mammals, we really need connections with other people, we need conversations, interaction and to laugh and find joy, somewhere, with – well, anyone really! Go and interact because it really lifts the feel-good chemicals and helps us to feel revitalised.

Leave stuff

The swan effect has us sorting everything – gracefully.  But is it necessary?  Seriously. Just leave it. Whatever “it” is, leave it. This might be the housework, shopping, kids homework, cleaning the car – whatever, just leave it. I know! Shocking suggestion, but really – the washing and tidying will still be there and it comes back far too quickly too, so leave it, just for an hour or day or so (I’m not talking about forever).

Filter

People only talk about the good stuff and the really bad stuff. So, when all you are hearing at the office or on the playground is people’s achievement, or even if you are reading about all this on Social media or wherever, remember that it’s people sharing what they want you to know. They’re not going to show you their swan effect, or talk about the fact that they are not coping, or the sibling rivalry and bickering that goes on every day are they! Will they’re tell you about that big pile of ironing that’s hidden somewhere? (that’s what I do!). So, filter information and only pay attention to what you want to, whilst keeping an amount of reality in mind. Don’t let other people drain you with their woes.

Delegate or Ask

Are there things you can delegate to colleagues or members of your family? Are there things you might hate doing that others don’t mind? Doesn’t matter if it takes them so much longer, it’s their time they use – not yours! Sometimes people just need to be asked because they have an attitude of ‘ you seem to have it under control’ or ‘I didn’t like to interfere’ or (my husband’s favourite) “you are so good at it”.   Ask.  I ask my husband to iron or buy an M&S meal for tea.

Relax

What is your idea of real, complete relaxation? Mine’s a sunshine and beach, which is not easily doable however, I will take myself off for a soak in the bath. What could you do? Read a book, do something creative, listen to hypnosis. As well as taking time to revitalise, take time to relax too – it’s important.

So I’d love to know how this can help you or what, if any, of these things you already do.  Let me know in the comments space below or drop me an email or pop over to my contact page and drop me an email.

Hi, I’m Emma, providing Coaching and hypnotherapy in York and online, with a particular interest in helping you with anxiety, stress, fears and phobias so that you can take back control of your thoughts and feelings.  That way you can quickly and easily feel more able to cope with your busy life! There are no magic wands or quick fixes instead I give you personalised tools that work for you and fit with your lifestyle.

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Lessons for Leaders 50: Are You Stress Aware? https://emmalangton.com/lessons-for-leaders-50-are-you-stress-aware/ Thu, 15 Apr 2021 12:27:00 +0000 https://emmalangton.com/?p=6151 Are You Stress Aware?

Even if you think you’re doing OK, have a listen to this episode where I ask ‘Are You Stress Aware?’, because #stress can creep up on us!

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Are You Stress Aware?

It’s better to know the signs, than risk burn-out / illness or worse!

Listen in for my (slightly whacky) explanation of how stress creeps up on us.

I share some of the signs and symptoms you might experience.

Why it’s good for you that you become stress aware.

How you can spot it in other people too so that you can deal with them better in your workplace or in your relationships.

The one top tip (for this episode at least) that you need to do and then don’t forget to tune in  to the rest of the month when I go into more detail about the help and support you can put in for yourself and for others you work or live with.

Please do make sure you hit ‘subscribe’ so that don’t miss an episode.  

If you haven’t yet  left a review, please do go and find the little button to leave a review and let me know your thoughts, key take-aways and what you value from the podcast.

Join my corporate leadership and wellbeing newsletter HERE

If you want to be increasing your performance so you’re more resilient in these current times, can focus easily, and use tools and techniques to deal with all the current and unknown challenges, then make sure you drop me an email to emma@emmalangton.com. Or head to my contact page and either send me a email from there or book an appointment straight into my diary – saving all the to-ing and fro-ing you get when we try to get space in people’s diary.

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Overcoming Work Related Stress https://emmalangton.com/overcoming-work-related-stress/ Tue, 13 Apr 2021 10:42:00 +0000 https://emmalangton.com/?p=5388 Person with cotton wool head to resemble overwhelming thoughts.

Whatever your job role, overcoming work related stress is something many of us contend with. I think we can all agree that the last 12 months have brought new stresses to our lives, that certainly weren’t in our job description.  Many of us are still working from home and for a large percentage, we will be split between home and the office now, even when things return back to normal.

The health and safety executive says that 35% of work related complaints are due to stress, so it needs to be taken seriously.  As stress can hugely impact both health and personal lives, employers and individuals must place overcoming work-related stress as a priority for healthy, happy employees but also for an engaged and productive company.

With stress awareness month running through April, organisations are using this as a focus for their wellbeing workshops to support their people, reduce stress and improve performance.

So the good news is that there are some easy ways to overcome work related stress and by encouraging implementation of  these tips will enhance the support you give your people so that they can cope with these challenging times.

How Routines Help in Overcoming Work Related Stress

If you’re in the office, you usually follow a fairly regimented routine, whether that’s getting up and stopping at the shop, or grabbing a coffee, so it shouldn’t be any different if you’re working from home. Get up as normal and ‘start’ your day, get dressed and ready as you usually would. I know I feel so much more productive if I am ready for the day, as opposed to just getting up and sitting down at my laptop!

Ending your day when you’re at the office is easier as you can simply get up and leave, but at home you’ll need to create an act that essentially is the end of your day, whether that’s going for a walk, clearing your desk, or just doing something you enjoy.

The companies I’m working with are investing in support for their people around healthy boundaries and managing stress to improve performance. They see the value in helping employees overcoming work related stress because they are seeing that working hours are merging into the evenings and weekends, leaving their employees struggling to switch off or feeling under pressure to get through an incredible workload as well as juggling childcare when you’re essentially at your office all day and night!

Prioritising is Essential in Overcoming Work Related Stress

Stress tells us that everything is a (perceived) threat, that it’s urgent. Everything you need to do is not necessarily a life and death situation it doesn’t need to be dealt with there and then.

One thing that can instantly make you feel less stressed is to write everything down.  Getting thoughts, tasks and reminders out of your head is essential in overcoming work related stress by giving you space to think clearly, come up with a plan and be able to prioritise and delegate where needed.

And, don’t forget to factor in lunch breaks, or time to rest or just get away from your screen. After all, if you were in an office you’d be at the kettle a few times a day, or over at a colleagues desk for a chat every now and again.

Deep Breathing Helps Reduce Stress

William James, an American psychologist once said:

‘The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another’

and this ties in perfectly to my next top tip, which is to breathe. By allowing ourselves time to take a deep breath in and a long breath out, we are giving ourselves time to choose another thought. The act of deep breathing takes your mind away from the initial anxiety in your mind, it calms down your internal systems and it will help prevent you from spiralling into a panic.  Practicing a breathing technique every day is easy to implement and has huge benefits. Listen to my podcast episode on why you need a breathing technique for more information.

Overcome Stress By Getting Moving

As we head into warmer weather, getting outside for a walk each day, even for ten minutes is hugely beneficial.

Stress is relieved within minutes of time in nature by reducing your cortisol levels (the stress hormone) and reducing muscle tension and blood pressure.  Nature also boosts dopamine and endorphins production both of which promote happier feelings.  Taking a rest is necessary. It allows you to refresh your brain so that you return to work with higher productivity and better performance.

Speaking to Someone is Important for Overcoming Work Related Stress

There are two strands to this, if you’re feeling overwhelmed and stressed, speak to your manager, quite often a lot of stress you’re feeling will just be your own mind and thoughts, but they might be able to help spread some of your workload. It might also be that you’re just feeling ‘zoomed out’, its so easy for businesses to get into the habit of just having meetings for meetings sake. Zoom calls can be exhausting as they stimulate our senses, so if you can free up time to get work done by dipping out of some meetings, that’s also worth mentioning.

Secondly, speak to colleagues. That’s it, plain-simple human interaction. If you were in the office you would be talking, so try and stay in contact despite being at home. You never know, you might be the only interaction somebody has that day. This can often help just make you feel better and less stressed too, by providing a distraction and taking a moment away.

As humans we’re hardwired to experience and respond to stress, but these simple tips can help you adjust your thinking to better cope. Stress can make us feel overwhelmed, unhappy and out of control, so it’s important to have some mechanisms to turn to. For more advice, get in touch with Emma

This blog was previously feature on Make It York as a guest blog

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