BBP41 Changing Your Money Story

BBP41 Changing Your Money Story

What do you do when you love making money but it’s never supposed to be talked about?  This is the conversation I have with Sarupa Shah who always knew she had healing qualities but also had an MBA.  She knew she wanted to make money in her business.

What do you do when you love making money but it’s never supposed to be talked about?

 This is the conversation I have with Sarupa Shah who always knew she had healing qualities but also had an MBA.  She knew she wanted to make money in her business.

Emma talks about how refreshing it is to hear the conversation about being comfortable talking about making money.  It’s not about making money in a mercenary way.  This is something Sarupa had to rationalise, even from the times in her corporate world where people couldn’t believe how she was able to make the money from the experience she had.

“Particularly as women, we want to say we’re not doing it for the money, but if we are not doing it to earn money, then there are no brownie points for doing this.”

 Money is simply an exchange of value for value.  We pay for something we need and the person receives that value.  It provides a commitment.  We can all go on free calls, free webinars and never implement anything because we have no real investment, other than the time we have spent.  Money is a stronger investment.

 Emma mentions how she talks a lot about the mindset and the beliefs we grow up with and how this can affect our beliefs about money too.  When Emma digs deep into the beliefs about money and some of the experiences they have and the examples they give about what they think about money, it sets the value for themselves and the belief about how money comes around.

Sarupa doesn’t talk about spreadsheets and spending but from that point of the relationships with yourself.  Money is an ally that will enable you to do the things you want to do, homes extensions, holidays etc.  When the people we work with are invested they are more likely to implement, grow and receive the work we do with them when we invest, respect and appreciate ourselves.

“It’s just me, why would anyone want to pay me for that?”  A can of worms can open up and every belief we hold can come to the surface.

Emma talks about the belief of “if you work hard, you will do well” and Sarupa talks about how she believes we need to work smarter.  Sometimes we need to look at the reality and assess whether we are really turning up to our desk to productive work, rather than the constant thinking in our head, doing it all and feeling like nothing is working.  There’s no rhythm or consistency because people are not really showing up in their work.

Did you have one turning point that made you realise you can change the way you think about things or was it a series of things that happened?

Sarupa shares that she was a terrible employee but when she was running her own business she came to realization that she was running off her savings and had to remember that her family used to call her “lucky devil” who always believed she could make things happen. 

She could see she was making a difference in other people’s lives and wondering what was wrong with her then.  Her money work was born then, she had a lot of judgement about being wrong or greedy and had to deal with that.

Emma shares her experiences of her network when people ask to work for free, or for the exposure or a reference.  Sarupa shares that she’s not a fan of trading skills because the energy and investment becomes imbalanced.  The exchange of swapping money is really important and allows us to grow with that investment.

What steps do the listeners need to take to build on the money story? 

It’s about being honest with ourselves and look at the story you are telling yourself.  Take a long hard look in the mirror and look at what’s not working, what can you do about moving through the uncomfortable feelings and the other stories that come up.  Being able to be honest and allowing yourself to get support in.  Stop looking at getting support in as being a failure.  We need to give ourselves the support we need and explore the inner work about our value, our courage and addressing the stories, beliefs, excuses and fears. 

That way we explore and break old patterns and change habits so that we do things differently.  That way we can write a new money storey.

Where to find Sarupa Shah

The Abundance Aunt Column in the Spirit and Destiny Magazine  has resources and information on Sarupa’s work.

To get in touch with Emma, you can contact her by email and book a call to talk about how to help you perform at the next level without the fear doubt or overwhelm.

This post discusses: beliefs, coaching, executive, mindset, money, story, values
Emma Langton

Emma Langton

Executive Leadership Coach

Emma hosts the Lessons for Leaders podcast. Each week she brings you lessons, learnings, tips and advice to enable you to lead with ease in business, without stress, doubt and overwhelm so that I help you to increase your performance, be resilient and thrive in life. Emma has been providing coaching, training and therapeutic support for executives since setting up her business in 2011. Prior to that she spent over 20 years with people at the top of national and multi-national training and communication businesses.


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